Following a cremation, it's customary for the immediate family members of the deceased to pick up the urn that contains the remains at the crematorium, and then transport the urn to the funeral home where it will be on display during the service. Not everyone will want to take this approach, though. If you're tentative about the idea of picking up the urn at the crematorium, simply convey this sentiment to your funeral director.
The death of a loved one brings with it lots of varied emotions. When conflicts over funeral planning arise, the situation becomes worse. How do you go through the funeral process without the added emotional baggage of conflict?
In other words, how do you ensure that such conflicts among family members are resolved speedily?
Advance Planning
It helps a lot when your loved one planned their funeral in advance. In such a case, you should respect the wishes of the dead, even if you don't agree with them.
One of the important tasks that you need to complete when you're planning your own funeral is selecting the pallbearers. This is a big honor for those you choose. Your funeral home will commonly give you an idea of how many people to select. At many funerals, six or eight pallbearers are common. Regardless of how many you've decided to select, you should always plan to choose at least one alternate pallbearer.
